OK, here's the deal. Things really aren't working between me and my girlfriend anymore. We've been together about 2 1/2 years and have lived together for 2 of that. That's not really my problem. My problem lies in the fact that everything she has is mine. She doesn't have a car, she drives one of mine around. I bought her cell phone and it's attached to my contract. Our apartment is leased in my name. How do I not only break up with her but kick her out, take back my car and her phone at the same time. I should note I haven't completely been supporting her. She pays half the rent and has car insurance in her name on my car that she drives, and pays like a quarter of our other mutual bills. I don't know how to do this without being an ass, but I originally let her borrow my car when her old car died, with the understanding that she'd save up for a new car. She hasn't been saving. Its been a year. How do I take everything back from her? And am I a jerk for even asking?

I don't think that you are being a jerk. you may need to set some boundaries and explain to her that you work hard for what you have and she needs to do the same. Sometimes tough love is the best.

No, you aren't the jerk. It sounds like she has been sponging off you for some time now. Here is a question for you: did you consider all of these things when you two moved in together? Probably not. Also, there is no way to break it off with her without hurting her. I mean, she drives YOUR car, lives in YOUR apartment, and is splitting YOUR cell phone contract. This can go either way. One, seek professional counseling or Two, seek a lawyer. Do you want to stay together but have problems that you want to TRY to work out or do you both just want out and need to seek advice on the finances from a lawyer? Consider this....Good Luck

Oh wow, sounds so familiar but the gender role on the other foot. I'm a female and pretty much the breadwinner in my relationship. He had an injury at his job and is now on state disability. I moved him in, first mistake, then are argreement was that he would pay bills and help with groceries. He barely does that and spends his money pretty much on himself and his own pleasures. When he does pay me, its like pulling teeth to get it. As for myself, I am working hard every single day and making a decent salary. To answer your questions, I think you need to take your happiness into consideration first and do what you have to do. I am in the midst of kicking out my moocher boyfriend because I am sick of his ways and the fact he doesn't appreciate me. Like I said before, make yourself happy and take back what is yours. If the love is not there, you can't force it to happen. Good Luck.