Oh wow, sounds so familiar but the gender role on the other foot. I'm a female and pretty much the breadwinner in my relationship. He had an injury at his job and is now on state disability. I moved him in, first mistake, then are argreement was that he would pay bills and help with groceries. He barely does that and spends his money pretty much on himself and his own pleasures. When he does pay me, its like pulling teeth to get it. As for myself, I am working hard every single day and making a decent salary. To answer your questions, I think you need to take your happiness into consideration first and do what you have to do. I am in the midst of kicking out my moocher boyfriend because I am sick of his ways and the fact he doesn't appreciate me. Like I said before, make yourself happy and take back what is yours. If the love is not there, you can't force it to happen. Good Luck.